Once I recover I'll write some more, but until then something for your enjoyment:
The Black Keys collaborations with rappers for their new album, simply amazing.
Sunday, November 29, 2009
Thursday, November 26, 2009
Savage
Last weekend Dan Savage was in Vancouver doing a talk and with J being one of his biggest fans we attended, accompanied by J's secondary partner, let's call him Z. If you've never been to a Dan Savage talk (I hadn't before Saturday) he answers unscreened anonymous audience questions and has an ability to respond to these questions in rapid succession that is amazing and his advice always seems so well thought out. He's a brilliant and incredibly funny man. And being anonymous questions from the audience there were some hilarious ones, leading to equally entertaining responses. I think we all left with sore cheeks. I'd love to share some of his advice but I wouldn't be able to do him justice, plus J always tells me I'm the worst person at re-telling stories (keep an eye out for her comments). Luckily it was filmed and I believe he's planning on posting it at some point; I'll make sure to link to it when I find it. [Or if anyone comes across it, I'd be grateful if you emailed it to me so I can post a link to it here]
[If you don't know who Dan Savage is he's the author of Savage Love, a column in a Seattle based newspaper called the Stranger, he's also an editor (check out the most recent column http://www.thestranger.com/seattle/SavageLove?oid=2820617). ]
After the talk, J, Z and I stopped for some scotch (Z and I) and a martini for J (she says scotch tastes like burning...I don't disagree but it's oh so lovely burning). So with sex on the brain and liquor in our veins, the conversation inevitably turned to video games....seriously - really we're not that nerdy; but we sure have our moments. That conversation didn't last that long as J's attention quickly wavered (if we ever had it) and well, we all still had sore cheeks from the sex.......advice. So sex, rope, bondage and any other deviant thing that we could think of quickly took over.
Apparently I should be enrolling in a takedown class at the CSPC (Centre for Sex Positive Culture) in Seattle; not 100% sure what this entails but I already have volunteers to come watch, always glad for the support!
Z offered to tie me up but assured me that he wouldn't touch me with his cock (gee thanks! Yes we're both straight); I politely declined or at least until I can think of something to offer in return; I am hoping to take a suspension bondage class soon.......plus I think J would have way to much fun with this, I imagine her sitting in the corner giggling hysterical and snapping picture after picture. Bondage, Rope, Sex....yes a good evening of discussion was had by all.
And I must thank Dan for a fantastic evening; keep up the good work!!
Wednesday, November 25, 2009
A Normal Life...
How many times in your life can you look back and say that a moment changed course of your existence?
Off the top of your head, I'm sure you could say many, but if you really think about it it boils down to only a couple of events. One, two....maybe three in my 29 years. One of my these happened 5 months ago when my partner, J, and I opened up our relationship. The culmination of 5 years together and 18 months of discussion, negotiation, and research into polyamory.
She was 4 weeks into a 7 week design based Italy trip with 12 classmates and I was to meet her in Milan, her final destination, to travel for a couple more weeks. Prior to her leaving, we agreed that we remain monogamous (save for a potential escort rendezvous for me - and yes it is legal in Canada). Being the sexual being that she is, she was literally crawling out of her skin for some sort of sexual contact. It was thus decided that if the opportunity presented itself she could cease her crawling, officially making our relationship non-monogamous; 2 weeks later that opportunity occurred.
I must admit that even though we agreed to remove the shackles of our relationship, the event floored me. Our separation and thus inability to adequately discuss the issue made for a trying week leading up to our Milan meeting. But our pre-emptive and continued dialogue allowed us to realize that we are meant to be polyamorous.
In the weeks and months that have followed we have not only embraced our polyamory but also the kinky side of ourselves to the point where we no longer identify ourselves as normal or at least how others define the word....we consider ourselves quite 'normal', at least as normal as people can be. Is anyone really normal? I think the media has dictated what is and isn't...but that's a thought for another day.
Our past, present and future as well as general musings and anything else that comes to mind will be shared...do with it what you will. Join us on our journey.....we always enjoy company....especially if you're as 'normal' as we are.
Off the top of your head, I'm sure you could say many, but if you really think about it it boils down to only a couple of events. One, two....maybe three in my 29 years. One of my these happened 5 months ago when my partner, J, and I opened up our relationship. The culmination of 5 years together and 18 months of discussion, negotiation, and research into polyamory.
She was 4 weeks into a 7 week design based Italy trip with 12 classmates and I was to meet her in Milan, her final destination, to travel for a couple more weeks. Prior to her leaving, we agreed that we remain monogamous (save for a potential escort rendezvous for me - and yes it is legal in Canada). Being the sexual being that she is, she was literally crawling out of her skin for some sort of sexual contact. It was thus decided that if the opportunity presented itself she could cease her crawling, officially making our relationship non-monogamous; 2 weeks later that opportunity occurred.
I must admit that even though we agreed to remove the shackles of our relationship, the event floored me. Our separation and thus inability to adequately discuss the issue made for a trying week leading up to our Milan meeting. But our pre-emptive and continued dialogue allowed us to realize that we are meant to be polyamorous.
In the weeks and months that have followed we have not only embraced our polyamory but also the kinky side of ourselves to the point where we no longer identify ourselves as normal or at least how others define the word....we consider ourselves quite 'normal', at least as normal as people can be. Is anyone really normal? I think the media has dictated what is and isn't...but that's a thought for another day.
Our past, present and future as well as general musings and anything else that comes to mind will be shared...do with it what you will. Join us on our journey.....we always enjoy company....especially if you're as 'normal' as we are.
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